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Aging Like a Guru - Who Me? is a fun and inspiring show about the process we're all stuck dealing with-AGING! Dr. Rosie Kuhn shares a perspective that will empower you to age gracefully + mindfully, and with a smile on your face. You will find yourself laughing, and relieved, as you find pieces of yourself revealed in every episode. Come laugh along with us!
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Monday Oct 21, 2019
Monday Oct 21, 2019
The HOW is the Entire Point of This Journey
Upon reviewing our lives, reliving memories of the past, we can see patterns and strategies we were conditioned to engage in. There were principles and rules, ideals and obligations to uphold.
As we age, and perhaps as we get beyond obligations of family and career, we are given an opportunity to review how we lived our lives, how we made choices, and how we lived within the consequences of those choices.
If you are able to imagine yourself an “Indiana Jones” of sorts, you can see your life as an amazing adventure. You were handed a manual written by your elders. It seemed right that you follow the mandates. At times you could have chosen a path less traveled, and perhaps you did. Perhaps like Indiana, that manual had absolutely no relevance to the circumstances you found yourself in, so you used it for toilet paper or as a fire starter instead!
Truth is, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are able to be with all the twists and turns, all of the consequences of those choices, and acknowledge to yourself, “Wow, that was an amazing adventure that I created for myself. What have I learned so far? What can I take with me as I go forward on the rest of this journey of my life?"
When I read in Oneness (p.368), that the how is the entire point of this journey, it kind of shattered my reality. Up until recently, I’ve been more enmeshed in the what of this journey: what I’ve done and was it enough. Is what I’ve done right, wrong, good or bad? In the next decade or two, will I be rewarded for what I’ve done or will I be punished?
As I consider the how’s of my life, the story becomes more interesting and engaging. And, as I age, I’m able to review this story from an overview.
Actually, now that I think about it, I wrote an autobiographical book. The intention of writing that book (The Unholy Adventure of a Reluctant Adventurer) was to uncover how I came to choose some ridiculously challenging choices throughout my life. As the title suggests, I never saw myself as an adventurer and probably never will. However, I suggest that each of us, through reviewing and reliving the how's of our life, will reveal how we created an incredible adventure for ourselves: coming to this planet, figuring out the what’s and how’s, then bushwhacking our own trails of a life that will never be lived or known in quite the way that you know your life to be. Isn’t that awesome!
I’d love you to be curious about how your journey began and unfolded for you. Write your memoirs for yourself. Encourage yourself to live in the question, “How did I come to make the choices I made, and how I did I live in the consequences that arose?"
I guarantee it will be a fascinating story for you to reveal to yourself.
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Friday Oct 18, 2019
Friday Oct 18, 2019
Trying to Out-Do God - Not Me!
My dad thought he was immortal and invincible when it came to dying. I watched him struggle to stay in his body when everything was going against him. His body was shutting down but he was determined to out-do God. It didn’t work!
My friends Marj and Fred went to a memorial this weekend for a dear friend here on the Island. They were laughing about the fact that even though death is inevitable, there is always a shock, surprise or amazement when some one dies. “Oh My God!! He Died?”
There are a lot of people that eat too much, drink too much, and do things that are death-defying acts. A friend of mine, Marnie, told me her husband was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes. She said that he'd been eating too much sugar in the form or candy and cookies for decades, and had been warned that his sugar levels were high. She said that he thought he was invincible. He isn't alone by any stretch of the imagination.
Each of us push the envelope of unhealthy habits even though we all have the common sense and the information to back up the fact that our bodies can only withstand so much abuse before severe repercussions in the form of disease shows up. I think it's because we want to believe we can buck the system - out-do God.
Irvin Yalom, an existential psychotherapist, shared something I always thought might be true: That each of us believes we are going to be the one that is immortal, that can out-do God, that can survive what is an existential non-negotiable event for every living thing on this planet - death!
I laugh at myself and the rest of us who allow our egos the space to attempt to show God who's boss! We are funny creatures - so much wisdom and so little smarts.
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Wednesday Oct 16, 2019
Wednesday Oct 16, 2019
Considering Therapy - Who Me?
Therapy, Coaching, or any form of personal development can be very useful, if not imperative at time.
Personal growth and self-discovery are part and parcel to growing ourselves through all stages and ages of life. Sometimes we need the support even when we think we can do it alone. Other times, a good self-help book can do the job.
In this podcast I emphasize the choice to reaching out for a Coach, Therapist or Minister as a support. What I didn't emphasize is that you may feel desperate and despairing. I've been there myself many times.
It's so important to get help from people who've been there and can empower you through this challenging time. Calling 911 if you are in a situation that is unbearable can be the greatest gift you give yourself.
The national 24/7 crisis line is 1-800-273-8255. There's also a national crisis text line.
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Monday Oct 14, 2019
Monday Oct 14, 2019
I am So Alone or Am I?
Experiencing those moments of devastating aloneness is something that occurs for each and every one of us. It is an existential phenomena: because we exist, aloneness exists.
For me, the moments I feel most alone are the moments I begin any new project, and anytime I'm about to take a leap of faith - reaching into and perhaps beyond the edge of my comfort zone.
In these moments I come to experience that, in this moment, I am completely responsible for how I am being and how I am being with myself. I am completely responsible for the choice I've made and for taking this next step into what only can be described as the abyss.
I have people in couple's coaching experiencing this when they desire to step into deeper intimacy with their partners. I know people wanting to write their books, wanting to change careers, parents dealing with the process of empty-nesting, people aging alone.... Every one of these people feel alone, believing they are without anyone to understand and support them in this excruciating moment of being human.
Though we may have read about, talked about, thought about the moment that brings us to the edge of our comfort zone, no one knows it until they step out beyond what was the known just a second ago. And to do it over and over and over again is what it takes for self-discovery and for the fulfillment of the human spirit to occur.
It is so human to feel alone and to forget how connected we are to each other by all the ways we live inside these bodies. We are kindred spirits. When we remember this we can perhaps feel alone less often. We know that we are among brothers and sisters learning to leap into our true magnificence.
Listen in!
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Friday Oct 11, 2019
Friday Oct 11, 2019
Herding Emus at 80 - Who Me?
Last week on Orcas Island, I joined three other people in their mid to late 70's to herd an Emu back to safety and support. Who would have guessed that we would have the strength, wisdom, and patience to bring this event to a very successful conclusion?! Not me!
Society as a whole writes off our elders as "useless burdens," but just because we are old doesn't mean we don't have what it takes to do, well, just about anything!
It often comes down to brain over brawn, patience over panic, and love over struggle.
I have no doubt that us "old folks" have far more capacity for accomplishing what we set out to do than we give ourselves credit for. And the rewards are greater than we imagine!
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Wednesday Oct 09, 2019
Wednesday Oct 09, 2019
Divorce is a Possibility No Matter How Old We Are
Divorce among Baby Boomers is on the rise. I find that fascinating. It points to the freedom to choose to be who we are and to choose what brings us fulfillment. It points to our willingness to let go of what is no longer satisfying. The status quo of "stability and security at all costs" is no longer the only way we are willing to live life. We want a better quality of life, no matter what our age. That's a good thing!
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Monday Oct 07, 2019
Monday Oct 07, 2019
Grace Arrives
For many of us, we are given clues, verbally or visually, of what's to become of us in the future. This phenomenon can surprise us or confuse us. But it can also reassure us that grace is on its way.
Listen in to hear how Grace has showed up in my life.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Radical Remission by Kelly Turner
Oneness book by Rasha
Aging Like A Guru Facebook Group
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Friday Oct 04, 2019
Friday Oct 04, 2019
Bankruptcy - Breaking Promises and Being Okay - No Matter What!
Did you know that 1 in 7 people who file bankruptcy are over the age of 65?
I'm one of those people.
To decide to break a promise to my bank was just as hard as breaking promises when I chose to leave my marriages. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do.
This podcast explores some of the challenges of breaking promises you meant to keep.
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Wednesday Oct 02, 2019
Wednesday Oct 02, 2019
Take a Nap
Taking a nap can be a great way to restore sanity to your mind, body and spirit. For some of us, it goes against the grain. For others, it's just what the doctor ordered - who me?!
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com
Monday Sep 30, 2019
Monday Sep 30, 2019
What's Yours to Do?
No matter how old you are there is so much potential for having fun and enjoying life.
Really!
In this podcast I share stories of my sister Patrice and my friend Paula. They are having the time of their lives. They never saw how great it could be to age like gurus!
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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com