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The Big 10 Take Aways

One hundred podcasts on Aging Like a Guru! There must be a lot of great and wise tidbits of information in this series, eh?!  I know I've grown a lot in creating these podcasts.

Listen in to hear the big 10 take aways of Aging Like a Guru - Who Me?

 . . .  and then share your perspective on my Facebook page!

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

I Don’t Like Being Told What to Do

As we age we don’t want to give up our freedom and independence, which often means that we make choices that perhaps are not in our best interest.

Here's an example:

I haven’t been doing my daily energy routine, and even after only two days I can feel the effects. Damn it!!! I hate doing things I don’t want to do! I’ve been like this my whole life! This is probably a foundational element, not only to the way I live my life but the way I coach my clients - to fully empower themselves to empower themselves to act in alignment with their highest truth and their highest good. The challenge is figuring out what that highest good and highest truth is!

The simplicity of carving out 30 minutes for my exercise routine is easy. I’m not so busy that there isn’t the time. What there is is huge amount of resistance to doing what someone tells me is good for me. I hate that!!! I know what’s good for me!!!!!!! RAWR!

So, if I know that this exercise routine is good for me, then why do I resist doing it? For that matter, for the longest time, I resisted giving up alcohol, wheat, and sugar, even though they all create inflammation, pain, and dizziness when I drink or eat them. That’s insanity. Yet it’s how I’ve been functioning for a very long time, until I got clear that I’d rather be without pain and stop harming myself and my body. That’s smart! Jeesh!

Aging like a guru, for me, requires that I give up my attachments to doing things my way, especially when my way clearly doesn’t work. Yet I continually discover ways that I still want to do things my way!

The dilemma is this: On the one hand, knowing that my exercise routine is doing good for me - as proven by the fact that not doing it brings instant impact, I can choose to make this something I want to do. On the other hand, I don’t want to give up the belief that I know what’s right for me, even if it’s not!

I see a lot of people who are aging - like all of us, who resist doing what they know they need to do in order to ensure that the quality of life continues for a long time. They, like me, don’t want to give up the personal power to say and do what they want, even when it creates harm for them and perhaps for others.

Working on my own dilemmas, discovering the logic and reason that holds the resistance in place is my practice. It’s also what I do as a thinking partner for others - helping them distinguish what thoughts, beliefs, and judgments glue them to their attachments to having it their way, yet keeping them from having what they truly say they want, such as quality of life and enjoying a pain free exisitence.

Yes, But I’m Angry!

There’s also an aspect within me that is angry. She wants to do, or not do, in this case, because she’s angry about something. Generally I find for myself, and my clients, that when they are angry about something, it usually has to do with having to let go of their attachments to being in control, being right, or being powerful! If the source of the anger is not uncovered, the anger stays in place, and so does the resistance.

What I know is that I can, and have done many time, do whatever I want to do - like my exercise routine and still feel empowered, right and in control. What makes the difference is how I’m perceiving myself and the source of control. I have to train myself to let go of the judgment and my attachment to that judgment that has me resist what is good for me. Obviously this isn’t easy. It means digging in to uncover the source of that anger and perhaps the fear of giving up that anger. It’s a fascinating puzzle each of us are living with.

My highest priority is to experience the fulfillment of my human-spirit. I want that more than I want to angrily resist giving up what I don't want to give up. So, it's up to me to choose what I'm going to choose - a positive quality of life or something else!

It is a simple process of asking what I want more, then letting go of the other. But, more importantly, to uncover what makes me resist letting go of letting go. 

Aging like a guru requires the surrendering of what we are afraid to let go of. I'm up for the challenge. How about you?

Listen in and then share your perspective on my Facebook page!

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

Simplicity of Living Comes with Practice

I love the sparkles of snowflakes falling. I love the wonder of the stars in the sky. I love watching the sunset and the sunrise, if it's not too early.

These have always been aspects of life on Earth with which I've found bliss.

There are also many aspects of life that with age have become not so fun, not so interesting, and I just can't be bothered by any more.

This intention of this podcast is to all the question, Who Am I, to inform me of what's of value in my life. How do I know what I like? How do I know what's important to me? How do I know who I am?

Tune in and answer for yourself!

As always, I invite you to share your perspective on my Facebook page!

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

Crisis of Meaning, Crisis of Faith

Though I've experienced a lot of major accomplishments in my life, I live as if I've not really accomplished anything important or of merit. Though I've finished my PhD, sailed across the Atlantic Ocean, written 13 books, and done lots of other stuff, and, though I've loved a lot and made some really hard choices in the name of love, my inner world, as I experience it, says that I've not amounted to anything. It may sound incredulous, but I feel as if I've not yet accomplished that one thing that will make me say "YES! I DID IT!!" 

In the most recent podcasts, I've been encouraging you to be curious enough to ask some really hard questions - essentially - how did you come to be the you that you are in this moment? So, of course, I've been asking myself the same questions and, more importantly, I've been answering them!

Sometimes, developing the skill of sleuthing is invaluable in uncovering answers to such questions. Like Sherlock Holmes, one can cultivate the uncanny ability to see value in what seems to be unimportant. In doing so, I've come to solve many mysteries in my life, just by staying in the sleuth mode. It's fun. That is why I love being a Life Coach. I love empowering people to sleuth for themselves so they discover the hidden truths that keep them from having the extraordinary life they dream of.

Most of us will experience a crisis of meaning or a crisis of faith at least once in our lives. We know them as a mid-life crisis generally, though they can occur at any time in life. It takes presence of mind, body, heart and spirit to sleuth one's way forward through such a crisis. From my perspective and experience it's imperative for each of us to do that, if we wish to age like a guru. Even if we wish do die in peace it requires some sense of knowing ourselves and what brings joy and meaning to us.

Listen in and then share your perspective on my Facebook page!

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

 

Why Stick Around?

Human life is so complex. The truth is that we exist in so many dimensions. We have past lives, parallel lives, emotional lives and spiritual lives. So who the hell are we, and why do we do this thing called Life on Earth?

Each of us have our own answers to those questions. Each of us have our own curriculum. No two of us are on the same trajectory. We are alone on our personal quest, along with eight billion others. That's funny, though mostly, it doesn't feel funny at all. It feels scary, insane, and, a lot of times we want the world to stop so we can get off this roller coaster ride!

This podcast explores what has us stay, even when we are unhappy, unfulfilled and unappreciated in our lives, relationships and work environments.

Listen in and then share your perspective on my Facebook page!

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

What Have I Got to Show for My Life?

I have no doubt that each of us face the existential question of: What Have I Got to Show for My Life? It's a big question that goes along with: Have I fulfilled my heart's desires? Have I made a difference in the world? Was I loved? Did I love enough? 

Taking inventory of one's accomplishments, one's failures, one's apathy, one's hurtful attitudes, can bring any one of us to a place of valuing the exquisite life adventure we've brought about by our own choices. We see how we really couldn't have done it any differently. We can surrender judgments, reprisals, humiliation, and self-punishment, if we choose to. And in so doing we can live in peace and gratitude for the way that it is. Yeah, who wants to do that?! 

The intention of Aging Like a Guru - Who Me? is to provide opportunities to be curious about who you are and how you came to be you. I, myself, am fascinated with that question. Obviously, my work as a transformational coach allows me to empower people to empower themselves to be curious enough to explore the inner world - where no man or woman has ever gone before - into your essential self!

We can die in despair with the perception that our lives amounted to nothing, or we can die in self-honor, that we courageously met each day no matter what. Each of us faces our endings in our own unique way. How do you want to face your ending?

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

Be True to You!!

I’ve been asking myself some really hard questions lately: 

What is the ultimate motive underlying everything I do? What is the purest intention of my life? What is my heart’s desire? How did I come to choose to see myself and the world around me the way I do?

These are questions we all ask ourselves in some way or another. And, these are questions few of us actually answer for ourselves. It takes time and presence of mind, body & spirit to discern the deepest truth that lies within. 

Aging like a guru requires that we take the time to discern the answers to these questions. For me, discernment means to extract or distill the essence of truth that lies within oneself regarding the question on the table.

Most of us will say that we don't have time for such stuff. However, as we get older and are less engaged in external activities of the world, there is a space for being with oneself like never before. Aging often gives us opportunities to visit with ourselves and get to know who we are and how we came to be us, now. Most of us won't take the time to get to know who we are, and that's okay. I'm just saying we have the opportunity to honor the lives we've lived by asking, "how have you come to be you today?"

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

Doing is the Undoing of Me

As I get ever closer to creating 100 podcasts, I wonder if I'm done with these podcasts on Aging Like a Guru. Is it time to stop? Do I want to stop? Should I stop? Should I continue? 

There are a lot of emotions that arise as I face this arrival at 100 podcasts. And, additionally, I see myself distracting myself with doing something that takes me out of the discomfort that currently is the state of being for me.

As I witness myself distract myself with any number of things, I realize that I've lost the thread of the process that currently needs my attention.

It's not that I have to have an answer right away to whether I continue with these podcasts or not. It's only a matter that there is a part of me that requires a listening from me, a presence of me, a quality of embrace that allows for a truth to be expressed that will not be expressed if I distract myself from me.

So what’s the nugget here? Be curious about what shows up when you show up to yourself. Be curious about what you might be open to experiencing just by not getting busy.

Listen in! 

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

The Essentials of Humor in the Aging Process

The process of aging brings with it so many opportunities to experience embarrassing and humiliating events. There's no way around it. So we might as well learn to laugh at ourselves.

Listen in for some laughs!

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

Where are the Elders Among the Elderly?

We generally expect that as people age they would cultivate character, wisdom, maturity, right But, the fact of the matter is, most of us don't. Most of us are as we were in our adolescence. Shocking? 

 

We may cultivate more ways to avoid, ignore, distract and deny life as it is, so that we don't have to really grow and stretch ourselves, which means that we can’t truly be elders for the younger generations.

 

It's not that we don't want to be elders. We just haven't had a culture, at least in the US, that grows us up into our elder potential. It's sad but true.

 

Listen in to hear my thoughts on growing into elder-hood. 

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For more blogs, books and videos, or if you are interesting in coaching or training with Dr. Rosie, check out her website: www.theparadigmshifts.com

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